Coincidence Control Develops the Dyad
In one's life there can be peculiarly appropriate chains of related events that lead to consequences that are strongly desired. After such experiences, one wonders how such a series of events developed; sometimes there is a strong feeling that some intelligence (greater than ours) directed the course along certain lines which It/He/She was/is programming. In such a series, life becomes greater than one expected, planned/programmed/ realized as possible.
The actual events (at the time of occurrence) may be experienced as negative (punishing), positive (rewarding), and/or neutral (indifferently objective); the real experiences themselves may involve pain/fear/anger, joy/delight/love, and/or a state of being of objectivity/neutrality/dispassionate-appraisal. One's own participation in the events seems, later, somehow predicated on being taught something that one needed to know before the next events unfolded.
For example, there are days in which all events planned for the day, for the next week, for the next few months, line up, almost automatically resolving former conflicts of hours of meetings, deadlines, financing. Someone (A) telephones, asking for a meeting a week hence: one writes the date into the engagement book. A crisis develops negating that date. Within a few hours person A calls and asks for a change of date because some factor changed in his/her life apparently unrelated to one's own. Thus one is given the time to resolve the crisis.
In our dyad such transformations of our calendar happen, not one at a time, but in multiple interrelated simultaneously operating configurations involving our many different projects (writing-editing-rewriting books, making motion pictures, running a busy household, giving lectures, being interviewed, meeting with friends, creating new scripts, etcetera). Each change in plans interrelates with all else happening to keep a constant flow of that which is apparently important actually taking place next. (As I write this, three of these rearrangements took place in one hour, affecting today and next month's plans.)
In reality, of course, a good deal depends on the happiness/ work/reasoning of the dyad. If our basic belief that the dyad is greater than either of us individually (see Chapter Four, "Coherence in the Dyad") is functioning fully, events line up. If, at any point, this belief is in abeyance, events do not (apparently) line up.
Several years ago, I enunciated a format (a principle) for such concatenations of events, somewhat as follows.
There exists a Cosmic Coincidence Control Center (CCCC) with a Galactic substation called Galactic Coincidence Control (GCC). Within GCC is a Solar System Control Unit (SSCU), within which is the Earth Coincidence Control Office (ECCO, sometimes mistakenly shortened to ECO, as in Ecosystems and in Ecology [the study of the Earth (Coincidence) Control Office]). Down through the hierarchy of Coincidence Control (from Cosmic to Galactic to Solar System to Earth) is a chain of command with greater and greater specification of regulation of Coincidences appropriate to each level in the system. The assignments of responsibilities from the top to the bottom of this system of control is by a set of regulations, which, translated by ECCO for us human beings, is somewhat as follows:
To all humans:
If you wish to control coincidences in your own life on the
planet Earth, we will cooperate and determine those coincidences for you under the following conditions:
1) You must know/assume/simulate our existence in ECCO.
2) You must be willing to accept our responsibility for control of your coincidences.
3) You must exert your best capabilities for your survival programs and your own development as an advancing/ advanced member of ECCO's earthside corps of controlled coincidence workers. You are expected to use your best intelligence in this service.
4) You are expected to expect the unexpected every minute every hour of every day and of every night.
5) You must be able to remain conscious/thinking/reason-ing no matter what events we arrange to happen to you. Some of these events will seem cataclysmic/catastro-phic/overwhelming: remember, stay aware, no matter what happens/apparently-happens to you.
6) You are in our training program for life: there is no escape from it. We (not you) control the long-term coincidences; you (not we) control the shorter-term coincidences by your own efforts.
7) Your major mission on Earth is to discover/create that which we do to control the long-term coincidence patterns: you are being trained on Earth to do this job.
8) When your mission on planet Earth is completed, you will no longer be required to remain/return there.
9) Remember the motto passed to us (from GCC via SSCU): "Cosmic Love is absolutely Ruthless and Highly Indifferent: it teaches its lessons whether you like!dislike them or not.” (End of Instructions)
With respect to the coincidences used to train Toni and myself, I tell the following:
Toni first saw me in the hot bath at Esalen Institute in Big Sur one night in January 1969. She was at Esalen visiting our very dear friend Alan Watts, who died suddenly last year. Alan was giving a weekend seminar.
I did not know she was there nor that she existed.
As is related in The Center of the Cyclone, Chapter 5, "A
Guided Tour of Hell" (citations for The Center of the Cyclone refer to Julian Press edition, unless otherwise noted), I had arrived at Esalen on a trip with Sandy Unger. I had just been through "the guided tour of Hell" under Sandy's supervision. We were on our way to a Psychopharmacology meeting at the University of California at Irvine. We stopped at Esalen on the way south from Berkeley and Palo Alto.
We attended Alan's seminar and separated. I went to the baths late at night to be alone and meditate on my recent experience. I wanted to see if I was capable of remaining at Esalen to work on myself, or would feel it necessary to return to the Maryland Psychiatric Research Center in Baltimore with Sandy. While I was in the bath, two other persons interrupted my solitude. In the dim light I recognized Alan's silhouette as one of them, but could not recognize the obviously female person with him. I resented, somewhat, their intrusion into my solitudinous meditation and remained silent. As Alan knew, many persons go at night to the baths at Esalen to be alone and to meditate. Alan did not interrupt me. He and the woman remained silent.
"I remember that night in the sulphur baths3 at Esalen after Alan had finished his evening session. We went to the baths together.
"There was no light except that of the stars. As our eyes became accustomed to the dark, we saw a silent figure sitting in the far corner of the bath near the wall away from the sea. I felt some vibrations signaling silent concentration.
"There was a flowing energy in the water among the three of us in the bath. I felt Alan's unusual silence, his acceptance of an unspoken agreement to remain silent. I, too, felt the vibes in this direction. After we left, Alan remarked that the other person in the bath was John Lilly. I had read his book on dolphins with some interest."
Thus did Toni and I make a first "contact" in 1969. Apparently, Earth Coincidence Control Office (ECCO) was preparing the coincidences to line up later. The coincidence of our first face-to-face meeting was deferred until 21 February 1971, two weeks after my return from seven months in Arica, Chile. Once again Alan Watts was involved.
With a friend, I attended a lecture given by Alan at the Beverly Hills High School auditorium. After the lecture I left the room and saw Alan in the hall, surrounded by a large number of friends and admirers.
"I had no knowledge at this juncture that John was in the audience nor that he was invited to the party afterward. I also did not recognize him out of water and in daylight. I later was told by Virginia Dennison, a long-time friend of Alan's, that it was she who had invited him to the party."
My friend and I talked with some of her friends. Somehow (I did not know how) we were invited to a party for Alan at a house in the hills near Hollywood. We decided to attend. She obtained directions; we started to drive in her car.
On the way, we stopped to eat supper. We resumed the ride and a tire blew out. It was very late (11:30 pm): there were no service stations open in the immediate neighborhood. By the time we found a solution to the tire problem it was 1:00 am. We almost decided to go home, that the party for Alan must be over. If we had taken that course, I would not have met Toni: ECCO left it up to us to push beyond the coincidences of the flat tire and the late hour.
The next events are recorded in Chapter 18 of The Center of the Cyclone (pp. 228-229) Bantam edition, and pp. 214-215 of the Julian Press edition:*
The meeting took place at a house in the hills near Hollywood at 1:30 A.M. I had been invited to a party after an Alan Watts
* John C. Lilly, The Center of the Cyclone, Bantam, 1972, 1973; and Julian Press 1972.
lecture at this house. The car I was riding in had a flat tire— hence the late hour. Alan had left the party—in fact, there were few survivors. As I walked in the front door I noted a dark-haired woman sitting on the floor in the large entrance hall. After meeting the host and the few remaining guests, I went over to her.
As I moved closer, I felt and saw her aura of love and beneficent influence. Her face is striking and unusual: there is an eaglelike quality to her gray eyes and classic nose—a sharp penetrating dispassionate, analytical quality, with awakedness and lively interest showing frankly and directly. I felt her centered, grounded, trusting, confident self sitting there watching me approach her from across the room.
I sat down with her, looked directly at her looking directly at and into me. Instantly I knew her and she knew me. We went into a sparkling cosmic love place together. I asked her name, age, attachments and all the necessary "48" information—she did the same.
I felt we had been together in previous lives and said "Where have you been for the last five hundred years?" She answered, "In training."
We both found this same feeling—our lives had been a training for each of us to meet the other. We were to meet to do a work of some sort together—work yet to be defined.
Four days later I went to a party at her house. We began to realize our new reality, a real together reality. We have not been apart for more than a few hours since.
Thus was our dyad born on 21 February. That night I found that which in Chile I had lacked and desired more than the continuance of my experiences there. I felt complete and whole meeting with Antonietta. All the travail and hardship since January 1969 suddenly made sense: ECCO's longer-term coincidence control patterns now began to show their power in earnest.
The dyad's cyclone formed from two individual cyclones, and became a stable entity greater than either of us, Toni or me.
In Center (Julian Press ed., p. 215), I wrote further:
Once Toni was asked by a friend how she'd changed since we'd formed our dyad. She told about grieving (joyfully) for her
former self, saying, "She wasn't such a bad sort alone; now that she's in the unity of the dyad, she's completed, us."
The ruthless nature of cosmic love (baraka) has been reshown to us in our dyad. Cosmic love loves and teaches you whether you like it or not; it has an inevitability, a fullness of taking over, a fateful joyous quality that spreads and brings others to you, teaching through you. Each of us feel this strongly, now.
This meeting with my soulmate, with all of its overtones of joy, acceptance, and happiness, heralded the beginning of a new attack of ego (Karma). As Oscar had said in Arica, "You have dealt with most of your ego. There are just a few grains of sand [and I added, "of diamond hardness"] in the perfect machine— now all you have to do is clean that machine and it will run smoothly in Satori."
In joining up with Toni, I discovered that the sand was once again in myself. Luckily both of us were strong enough so that we could work on this together. This mutual cooperative venture, to clean up our machines together, is in the essential nature of our dyad.
Little did either of us know that at the time of writing the above last paragraph—these statements were presaging some deep tests of each of us and of the dyad.
This book (The Dyadic Cyclone) gives the story of this "mutual cooperative venture ... in the essential nature of our dyad." (We each very nearly lost the other several times; through each one's effort and the help of ECCO we have survived for five years to date.)
Our "work yet to be defined" (above) is now clearer, more defined. (See above Instructions to Humans from ECCO; Simulations of God: the Science of Belief; and the text and appendices of this present book.)
BEYOND "REPRODUCE!": SUPRASELF DYAD4
We, in this dyad, each have already reproduced.
You have children made, as have I, each with another, not us. You can no longer become pregnant.
With you I cannot impregnate.
We can love, fuck, ecstatic union.
After many such, what then?
Are we here for sensation's sake?
Can we go beyond, through us and sex?
Where is "beyond"?
Far out spaces, greater beings-entities than us, beckon and call. Together can we go to them, or is it each of us alone?
Let us try, together, to so go.
Let us face our hindrance, evasions, blocks, and soar, together.
The hindrance of body ecstasy tied here convert to spirit travel energy there.
The hindrance of planet earth, mother ties to her bosom, use constructively.
The evasion of loss of independent self, convert to dyad greatness. Together fusing into one to travel as two-in-one.
No rivalry, no control for each separate over other, one directed by each of two, fused.
A dream, a fantasy? Poetry?
A program, a metaprogram for a Supraself dyad.
(Written on 15 December 1969: about one month before the first contact between Toni and myself at Esalen Institute, Big Sur, California, and one year and two months before we met on 21 February 1971.)